MODERN WOMEN ARE LEAVING THEIR HUSBANDS AS SOON AS THEY GET  JOB

MODERN WOMEN ARE LEAVING THEIR HUSBANDS AS SOON AS THEY GET  JOB

7-AUG-ENG 17

RAJIV NAYAN AGRAWAL

ARA------------------------Marriage has now taken refuge in selfishness and independence instead of sacrifice and dedication. Many cases are coming to light where the husband educated the wife, got her a job, but as soon as she became self-reliant, she abandoned the husband. This modern thinking is breaking relationships. Education and law are giving rights to women, but are taking them away from responsibility. Empowerment is incomplete until it teaches respect for relationships. Society should now raise its voice against such selfish attitude which is causing the breakdown of families.

There was a time when the relationship of husband and wife was a symbol of sacrifice, love and mutual dedication. Marriage was not just considered a social contract, but a deep emotional and spiritual journey. But today's modernity, education and so-called "rights consciousness" have thrown this sacred relationship into the furnace of selfishness. Today, there is concern over the rapidly increasing number of cases in the country where a husband works hard for years, works as a labourer to educate his wife, gives wings to her dreams, and as soon as he gets a government job, she asks the same husband: “Who are you?”

This question is not being asked to a man alone, this question is being asked to the entire sacrifice that was made to maintain a relationship. This question is also on the system, which gave the right to education, but did not teach responsibility. This question is also on the law, which gave protection to women, but did not try to teach the morality of maintaining relationships.

Along with modern education, another ideology has taken deep roots in the society - “put yourself first”, “relationships are a burden”, “freedom means being free from any bondage”. This thinking is teaching, especially to women, that marriage, husband, family are only a social formality, which can be abandoned when needed. And when education, law and a section of society promote this thinking, the result is – homes break, trust shatters and the sacrifice of men becomes a joke.

A poor husband who carried bricks, worked as a daily wage labourer to educate his wife, filled her form, paid her fees, dropped her off at the examination centre, distributed sweets after her selection – when the same husband stands at the door, the wife says – “Now I don’t need you.” This sentence is not just words, it is the death of the struggle in which relationships breathed. This is the face of modernity, which shines but is hollow from within.

If a wife rejects her husband only after he gets a job, without any reason, without any harassment, then this is neither empowerment nor freedom – this is a social crime. This is the murder of those values which are the foundation of Indian society. It is important to make it clear here that we are not talking about those women who actually suffer harassment, are exploited or who need protection. We are talking about those cases where a wife leaves her husband by misusing the law and rights only because she has become financially independent now.

The protection that the law has given to women is necessary and should be there, but that protection is sacred only as long as it is used and not misused. Today, the number of such incidents is increasing in the society where women, by making false allegations, have sent not only their husbands but also their families to jail, tortured them mentally and ruined them financially. Is this the family face of “New India”?

When a girl says, “Now I earn, I don’t need anyone”, then this is not independence, but narcissism. Does self-reliance mean that relationships should be abandoned? Does the value of love and sacrifice become zero as soon as one gets a job? Why is it not explained that a strong woman is one who keeps her nest safe even in her flight, and not burns it as soon as she flies?

The purpose of education is not only to get a job, but to bring maturity in thinking. Unfortunately, today's education has not given this maturity, but in many cases has given rise to self-centred thinking. If self-reliance turns into selfishness, it becomes a threat to society. If a woman runs away from her relationships after studies, it is a question mark on that education, on that thinking, and on the law that allows her to do this.

Many times, when a wife leaves her husband, the society remains silent. Women consider it their right, and men do not even have a place to speak. If a husband says that "I educated her, brought her up, made her career", then he is told that "She did not do any favour to you, she is now independent." But when a woman moves forward by the sacrifice of her husband, does that sacrifice have no value? Does it have no emotional recognition?

This mentality has now reached the courts. There are thousands of cases pending in the courts where men are fighting for their marital rights, yearning to meet their children, and carrying the burden of a relationship for years that exists only on paper. They cannot divorce, nor start a new life, and the society does not understand their pain.

In many cases, educated women have extramarital affairs, distance themselves from their husbands, and then hide behind legal protection. When someone raises questions on such cases, he is called “anti-women”, “narrow-minded” or “patriarchal”. But does a society not have the right to listen to the voice of a man who protects relationships?

If this mindset continues, So in the coming years, the institution of marriage will become hollow. Men will be afraid of marriage, families will break, and walls of distrust will be built in the society. Women will have to understand that they are not only responsible for getting a job, but also for maintaining relationships. When a husband pays your fees, gets you coaching, encourages you, then he becomes not just a husband, but a guide, a helper, a protector. And when you leave him after getting success, you reject not just a person, but trust.

This society can no longer tolerate false cases, superficial freedom and relationships broken in the name of selfishness. Now the time has come to add moral values to education, bring balance in laws, and give this message to the society that empowerment does not mean running away from responsibility, but fulfilling it honestly.

Duties are as important as rights in relationships. True empowerment is that which does not break relationships, but strengthens them. Because if a wife asks her husband as soon as he gets a job - “Who are you?” - So this is not just the defeat of the husband but of the entire society.